Earlier this year, I chatted with the R & B master Ne-Yo and I told him that he should put his considerable talent for pinpointing how people deal with the whole love-und-romance thing to work sharing his wisdom on all things romantic. Well, he’s finally taken some time out of his busy songwriting schedule and taken my advice, doling out a few thoughts on love, happiness, and the two possibly interacting on his blog. (OK, so I’m probably not the only person who let him know that he had quite a bead on the whole “love” thing and should let others in on it, but let a girl live with her delusions for at least a paragraph.) His post, after the jump.
The topic is relationships: the successful, the unsuccessful and everything in between.
Now I’ve only been an occupant of this planet for 29 years, but in that time I’ve seen the sunshine and the rain. I am a man that has gone thru the many levels of what it is to be a man. From the selfishness and greed that we as a species suffer from, to the realization that the world doesn’t revolve around me and I’m NOT supposed to just get my way, to the being angry at that fact, to eventually accepting it and learning that it doesn’t mean that I can’t be happy. Because ultimately that’s what everybody wants. Be it “for life”, or “only for a night”, everybody wants to be happy.
I think happiness starts with figuring out which one YOU want. If it’s “only for a night”, don’t run around getting into serious relationships, knowing all you’re gonna do is cheat. If it’s “for life”, understand what that means and be very careful in your selection process. Gotta make sure the other person is thinking the same way you are.
In theory this should be very easy to do, in reality we lie to ourselves more than we do to other people. Being honest with YOU is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, or another person. That honesty clears your vision. Now you know who you are, what you’re into, ans where your head is at, thus making it a little easier to look for what you want.
This is a topic that’ll take much time to discuss fully, and I don’t have a lot of free time as you all know. So let’s talk again soon. In the meantime, strat with being honest with YOU, at the very least it’s a step in the right direction.
Pretty simple advice, sure, but you know, some people pay therapists $200 an hour to hear very similar things. More soon, please!
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