Adam Lambert Talks Growing Up Gay In VH1 ‘Behind The Music’ Preview

Aug 4th, 2011 // 23 Comments

It’s hard to believe that handsome Grammy nominee Adam Lambert, one of the most magnetic performers to emerge from American Idol in the past decade, was once heavily racked by insecurity. But that’s just what the preview of the “Whataya Want From Me” crooner’s upcoming VH1 Behind The Music special (which airs this Sunday, August 7) conveys while focusing on the Glam One’s teenage struggle with his sexuality. Watch below.

Says Lambert in the Behind The Music clip:

“I think when I was about sixth grade, that’s when I realized that I was probably not the same as the other boys. And, you know, it was a weird discovery and, of course, I was kind of in denial for a while and it was all in my head… That’s one of the things that’s so hard about being a young person and realizing you’re gay or bi or whatever–we’re not told that that’s okay.”

Home movie footage and photos are shown of Adam hanging out with his fellow female students and taking a girl to the prom, while the singer discusses his attempts to assimilate to a “straight” lifestyle in his teen years.

And, sure, it might seem trite or done-to-death for the Season 8 Idol runner-up to discuss the trials and tribulations of being closeted as a teen. But let us just jump up on a soapbox for a brief moment to remind everyone that this is a struggle for millions of kids on a daily basis. And to hear someone like Adam Lambert relay his own coming-of-age story in this manner lets those individuals know that things can, indeed, turn out alright. (In addition to being a successful recording artist, Lambert is in a seemingly happy, committed relationship.)

So bravo, Adam. We know you’re probably tired of telling the story. But we guarantee that there are many out there who are always eager to listen.

idolator

  1. laurieb

    very nice article.. i agree with the message needing to be out thee for those struggling right now. As much as i want Adams music to be in the forefront, i recognize the need for him to talk about other very important issues. I believe that Adam is truly making a difference in this world.

  2. Annie

    thanks for the article on Adam. I love everything about the guy. Amazing talent. It’s too bad that his sexuality keeps some people from being fans. There are missing out on someone that is pretty great.

    His voice and music rocks my world.

  3. clr

    I don’t think it is done to death at all. Adam is speaking out and helping thousands of kids cope with something very frightening to them. In your early teens all you are trying to do is fit in and to discover that you are gay has to be overwhelming. Adam had a very accepting family and even he didn’t want to talk about it. I love Adam’s music, but I also like his personality and his quest to help kids. I’ve seen him bring supplies to help kids with their music, and now he will be mentoring kids on a new show in the Fall. He raised so much money for Donorschoose.org and the Charity Water organization to provide clean water to those in need. He may be a relatively new celebrity on the scene but right out of the gate he has his priorities right. With success should come the want to help others and he is a shining example of that.

  4. LJ

    I love this and it’s worth repeating:

    “And, sure, it might seem trite or done-to-death for the Season 8 Idol runner-up to discuss the trials and tribulations of being closeted as a teen. But let us just jump up on a soapbox for a brief moment to remind everyone that this is a struggle for millions of kids on a daily basis. And to hear someone like Adam Lambert relay his own coming-of-age story in this manner lets those individuals know that things can, indeed, turn out alright. (In addition to being a successful recording artist, Lambert is in a seemingly happy, committed relationship.)

    So bravo, Adam. We know you’re probably tired of telling the story. But we guarantee that there are many out there who are always eager to listen.”

    One thing about listening to Adam’s story is that it has opened my eyes. I never had that struggle he speaks of as a lot of people never have. However, there are millions of kids struggling with this on a daily basis. Some commit suicide over it. It breaks my heart when I see grown adults writing hateful comments on articles about him. I’ve even seen adults write hateful articles about him. These adults who should know better and who should be guiding our children to feel good about themselves. No wonder why these kids feel so alone.

  5. Andrea

    I agree with the premise of this article: it is very important for Adam to share his story so others in his situation have someone to look up to. I happen to love Adam’s voice and music, but I also deeply respect his courage in being himself to the public and the world. It takes tremendous courage to be one of the first openly gay performers ever signed to a record contract. Others in the industry had counseled against doing this…because it would limit one’s success and sales. It cant be easy. I wish him huge success because he is so talented and deserves it. He is a true star and a difference maker in the world.

  6. Jasmine

    Great article! Love Adam and everything about him. He’s definitely given me a better outlook on life with his positive attitude and humorous responses to the haters. He takes risks, makes mistakes, and keeps on going. And the VOICE is beyond compare. I will be a fan through all the ups and downs of his career. I wish him all the best in life.

  7. Lissa

    Love your take on this. Sure, fans have heard some of this before. And sure some people may take shots at him for talking about it again. But if this helps just one kid realize that there are those out there just like them despite what it seems like in school, it’s worth doing. Or even helps a kid’s Mom, Dad, brother, sister or best friend see things in a different light and provide the kind of support that Adam’s family luckily gave to him that is worthwhile as well.

    No doubt Adam is sick of talking about it. But it’s part of who he is, and I love that he is determined to be part of the growing group of artists out there who are letting kids know that it’s okay to be themselves.

  8. luvadam

    I applaud Adam for continuing to talk about his struggles as a child, in school, etc with his identity. When people who are in the public eye, admired, etc. (such as Adam) talk about their struggles with idenity, and being different from the other kids, children who are struggling now feel less isolated, less different, and might see light at the end of the tunnel and hope. I am very close to a child who is struggling with idenity, don’t know it’s a struggle with sexual idenity, but he is a free thinker, kind of marches to the beat of different drum than alot of other’s in his age group, and naturally feels a little isolated sometimes, gets teased some. But, I have told him Adam’s story, and how he has overcome things, and he has become a fan, and it helps to build strenght and continue being true to himself. So not only do I applaud Adam, but thank him as well.

  9. Dani

    Really looking forward to watching more of Adam’s story. Bravo to Robbie Daw for a thoughtful article without a sensational misleading headline. Thank you, it’s appreciated.

  10. My own gay son did not have any role models, just a lot of the opposite, which is probably one of the big reasons he didn’t live to see 18. I applaud Adam for his openness and role model he presents.

    • I’m so sorry about your son. I think back about all those wonderful, innocent, loving and caring young people who have been harassed to the point they couldn’t deal with what was happening to them. My fond wishes and love go out to you and others in your family.

  11. SoozinCA

    Adam has an important message, first for kids who may be struggling with the same feelings he did as a teen, and also for adults if they are willing to listen. I’ve had too many people tell me they believe being gay is a choice. I’m sorry but in 6th grade you do not CHOOSE to be different in a way that you think you have to hide from your friends and family. You do not CHOOSE to be different in a way that for several years you try not to seem what you are just to “fit in” with other kids.

    I hope someday (soon) being gay will no longer make Adam and other gays feel like “Outlaws of Love” (his new, hauntingly heartbreaking song)! Adam has the most amazing voice I’ve ever heard and a heart that I am thrilled he is willing to share with us, through his music. I cannot wait for more new magic from him!!

  12. brownie5808

    A@ laura corn my heart goes out to you- so sorry. i am one of these people that was so ignorant to the gay life style , through Adam I have completely changed my way of thinking. There is so much more work to be done here in the states, but I do believe we are geting there, slowly but surly. With or without adam being gay- I just LOVE everything about him ( how can you not) He is the only artist I have ever followed in my life- I feel I have received a gift by embracing this mans music, sole and courage. He truly is one of a kind vocally and internally.

  13. stinglikeabee

    Now I am choked up and crying…I am so sorry…sending love your way…

  14. brownie5808

    A@ laura corn my heart goes out to you- so sorry. i am one of these people that was so ignorant to the gay life style , through Adam I have completely changed my way of thinking. There is so much more work to be done here in the states, but I do believe we are geting there, slowly but surly. With or without adam being gay- I just LOVE everything about him ( how can you not) He is the only artist I have ever followed in my life- I feel I have received a gift by embracing this mans music, soul and courage. He truly is one of a kind vocally and internally.

  15. So many beautiful comments in response to a very well-written and thoughtful article. Thanks, so much, Robbie!

  16. Netmeg99

    After my morning of ranting on how I was sick of everything being about Adam being gay.. I read this.. I feel like a great big jerk :( You are so very right. Adam is helping many to be who they are by being open and honest.. That is one of the reasons why I love him so much. He’s changed me for sure in my ways of thinking. Thank You for reminding me how important it is for Adam to speak out to those that need his message of being gay and accepted. I love you Adam Lambert!!

  17. @SoozinCA I love your comments and the fact that you recognize that being Gay isn’t a choice it’s about body chemistry which starts to change during adolescence. I just spoke with a random stranger this afternoon about exact same thing. She is conservative in her way of thinking but has realized over the years that being gay is not a choice. Why would anyone think that a young 12 yr old boy or girl would chose to be gay so that they could be isolated, ridiculed or just plain harassed for being different. I feel that Adam is such a wonderful and positive role model for any young person today that is struggling with their indentity.

  18. lisa

    I, too had had it up to here with all the stories, articles and the link ‘gay’ to Adam’s name when I thought it should of been so much more.
    Thank you so much for this article – you really shed light and now I welcome it if it is to help any kid out there. Who better then Adam Lambert?

    I sincerely thank you for this Mr. Daw!

  19. HEP.

    What a marvelous clip to watch..anyone watching this special will take away something to remember,Adam life will remind all of us that you have to be honest with yourself in order to find any peace or happiness..one must love thyself to make other things all possible but most of all this show will tell people it is o.k. to be different…look at Adam Lambert,he found his dream and stayed true to himself, now he has millions of fans all over the world…Remember his EW cover during his idol run,it said “Loving Adam Lambert”,it is so easy to do so,well done Adam…you are loved!

  20. glamity58

    Thanks for the wonderful clips. I am looking forward to seeing the show on Sunday. I hope the bulk of time is spent on his childhood, music and future plans and not on his sexuality. I’ve heard it all and I don’t need to revisit this. One minute is about long enough to remind me he’s gay. Who cares?

  21. Oh! How I wish I could say what is in my heart right now … but I can’t!! Thank you all for your wonderful comments here … I couldn’t have said it any better. Thank you Mr. Rob Daw for such a splendid article … the BEST I have ever read about ADAM. I don’t think ADAM is sick of telling his story about his struggles when he was coming of age … not if it helps just one kid who doesn’t know what to do. ADAM is partnered with the It Gets Better campaign through the Trevor Project … his video is inspiring & I’ve read a lot of ‘Thank You’ comments on Ytube from kids that have been helped … so if this Behind the Music Special focuses on that part of ADAM’s life as well as his music … so be it … it is ADAM’s STORY … Let HIM Tell it the way HE Wants to … I’m ready & willing to watch/listen & ENJOY!!! LOVE YOU ADAM!!

Leave A Comment